Recently, I uncovered that Nr. 6 is an ideal number for your home, as it is represented by the planet Venus, the ruler of the finer things in life, beauty and love. This was brought to my awareness only when I moved into my new flat, two weeks ago and felt curious about the apartment’s numbers which added up to a 6. Since then I find myself reflecting on 6, 66 and 666 as numbers which in the collective unconscious are usually associated with the Devil, fornication, bad luck and unfortunate events, and yet occult teachers who dabble in numerology tell us that 6 is a number deeply connected to Venusian energy.
How did we get it twisted for so many years ? Well apparently, Christianity had something to do with it, and the bad rap that this number got went hand in hand with most things that suppress the Divine feminine and have distorted how we understand femininity in two unimaginative and extreme polarities: either the Maddona or the Whore, the weeping mother or sex-starved, fallen woman. Due to my sociological education and training as a feminist thinker, I am highly critical of the religious background I was born into, one that seems to continue to infiltrate common sense thinking and propagate the same tired clichés regarding what it means to be a woman (the man’s so called subordinate, a mere ‘rib’) & a man (i.e. built in the image of God).
Fortunately, some aspects of reality are far removed from popular thinking beliefs, as both men and women live their lives at varying degress of strength and capabilities and vulnerabilities, but these beliefs continue to hold water, and for some unreflective and unaware people, they continue to represent ‘the natural truth’. Life would be easier if there would be one obsolete truth that we could all follow, but things don’t function so neatly in practice.
So, to counteract the trend of distorting femininity, I keep reflecting on Venus and the meaning of 666, and I find that this number represents nothing to fear and everything to consider. Since I moved into my 6-themed new home, I spontaneously created a shrine to Venus in my bathroom one night when I was feeling depleted of energy. I drank some Weissbeer and took a bubble bath. Slowly, I regained my energy, and got into a routine of self-care: eating well and drinking water, doing morning yoga, putting on make-up and feeling inspired to write and share ideas.
At the moment, I feel a very strong Venusian presence in my life, and I am not entirely sure if this came with the place or if I am entering a period of my life where with age came the wisdom to simply accept my femininity, to be kinder to myself as a woman and accept that taking care of myself does not mean that I am subordinate to men, just that society chooses to see me this way (and well to see women, in general). I like to live in this discrepancy between what I think and feel about my gender and what society tells me I should feel and think. I am aware that it would be easier to blindly give in and conform to social norms and traditions, but the cost is to live within a sado-masochistic relationship with myself, one in which I hate myself for the things I want, for the skills I have and the personality I choose to express. So I’ve decided to let go of pain in my life, to slowly shed learned helplessness and compulsory modesty since I’ve no longer been able to lie to myself like I used to.
In astrology the suppression of the feminine is tied in with Venus-Pluto aspects. Venus represents our way of loving someone, how we earn money, how we value ourselves. The astrological sign in which our Venus falls and the house into which it is placed, determines our relational worth. A Venus in Scorpio or Venus conjunct Pluto would show an individual who represents soft power under external duress, a person who constantly transforms their value and loving patterns. So thinking of the symbolic dance between Venus (the bright) and Pluto (the dark) inspired me to write this post.
To offer some guidance, if you have strong Venus-Pluto links in your chart, the combinations, can be the following:
- a square: this represents explosive sexual tension, the kind that builds up in time and one day finds an unexpected outlet, also the person is perceived as sexual and lusty and attracts a lot of unsolicited sexual attention from others, heated arguments, power struggles)
- an opposition: an aspect of imbalance and excess, either too much sex or too little, too much money or none at all, a lot of personal worth or feeling dejected by others, a game of hiding the true Self or coming out with an uproar, keeping secrets or engaging in overt healing, one is empowered through beauty and a personal sense of style or feels awkward and disempowered.
- a trine or a sextile: these are harmonious aspects, they bring a lot of dignified sexual partners, tantric sex, being a really good secret keeper and confidant; if money is earned through sex there is a sense of quality and respect about it, of luxury and it is kept hush-hush; natives with such placements are also excellent artists.
- a conjunction: which works the same way as having Venus in Scorpio, since Pluto rules Scorpio – and makes the person a center for power and sexuality, for secrecy and smouldering good looks; this aspect imbues the native with strong intuition and keen analytical insights, as well. In my interpretation of this natal aspect, Venus-Pluto conjunctions are creators of sexual and healing karma, rather than karma receivers, which means they have a lot of power to change people’s lives as long as they become aware of their intense magnetism and use it for good and healing (otherwise it backfires on them and involves them into Ego-scenarios were they believe people ‘hate them for being beautiful’)
One way to deal with this energy is to accept your vulnerability rather than act from a place of constant defense and embodying aggressive, macho power. This means that one could encounter violence in life and respond with soft power, by drawing from the power inherent in the feminine archetype. Examples can be found in the amazing book of Leymah Gbowee, inspired by the events of the civil war in Libya, which details how groups of unarmed, vulnerable women of all ages, together with their children, used their vulnerability to counteract toxic, militant masculinities through comming together to pray and help each other. In one episode even, when threatened with sexual aggression from military men, Leymah described how she managed to disempower men by getting completely naked and oferring herself up, treating the sexual exchange not with fear but almost as a business exchange. When faced with this dignified surrender, men lost the capacity to draw pleasure from domination – which unconsciously lies at the root of sado-masochistic sex, the kind of sex that is used to control women’s bodies and is considered manly and normal in some cultures – and in some cases, men gave up using sexuality as a way to punish their victims. By meeting this soft power, they felt momentarily emasculated and lost the incentive to gain power through exploiting others’ weaknesses. This experience reveals the dynamics of gender intimidation and offers a soft strategy of overcoming Venusian power challenges.
The problem is not that women are the weaker sex, but that they are taught repeatedly to think they are weak, so that men psychologically can feel they are stronger by dominating them (this is what psychologists have coined as the ‘learned helplessness’ complex or in more popular terms, being a damsel in distress that needs a hero). This power dynamic brings nothing but tension between genders, and while it might lead to sex and procreation, it does not lead to fulfilling and respectful relationships where both partners can grow, because there is an imbalance of power which constantly has to be measured against human worth and dignity (which continues to be problematically gendered in society). Releasing this tension means that women need to let go of ‘learned helplessness’ and the pervasive idea that they are weak and frail and thereby ‘feminine’ and men need to let go of ‘machismo’, and the idea that they are real men if they drink hard, fuck hard and work hard. No. We can all drink, work and have sex, we can all build muscles and have feelings, we all eat and argue and cry and create. We can all be moral, peaceful and loving. Both men and women have estrogen and testosterone in their bodies, and just the simple fact that we have it in different quantities shouldn’t be the defining pillar of how we structure our social relationships. Well the upcoming 22-years long transit of Pluto in Aquarius is going to bring this point home to most of us, as we will see the collective transformation of the social fabric.
Indeed, some do some of these things better than others, but gender does not have anything to do with it as much as we traditionally thought – it is just the ideas that we attach to gender and we believe to be ‘a natural & inalienable truth’ because thinking along such stiff lines gives most people a sense of comfort; these ingrained beliefs about femininity end up perpetuating a string of boring, unimaginative comments on women’s plight. And this is where Pluto comes in: to disrupt what is stagnant in our psyches, to transform what is suffocating and does not help us all grow on a soul level. Even if Pluto has been demoted from the rank of a ‘planet’, it continues to pack an energetic punch and because Pluto transits are so long (it takes the planet aprox 248 years to complete its movement around the Sun and through the 12 zodiac constellations!) this transform happens slowly and in bursts which are usually triggered by the aspects Pluto is making to other luminaries (the most infamous ‘detonator’ being Pluto squaring Uranus which represents a period of intense, extreme, often violent, rapid social growth)
Individuals with strong Venus-Pluto aspects often exert a fascinating power of seduction over both genders, and project outwardly an unforgetable androgynous look. Some examples include Kurt Cobain (Pluto in the first house, Venus conjunct Sun & opposite Pluto) or Wynona Ryder (Sun conjunct Venus in the sign ruled by Pluto, Scorpio):
So how is the number 6 then integrated with Venus-Pluto aspects? To sum up my initial analysis, I would say that individuals who have a Venus-Pluto imprint in their chart could live out their soft power by experiencing moments of disempowerment in their personal connections which shame them and urge them to rise into their own self-control and empowered thinking. These tough lessons happen through the intermediaries of money, sex and personal agreements, and through how their body, style and beauty is perceived. With such an astrological signature, they also have to negotiate their trust limit and adapt it in order to build strong bonds of intimacy with others. So, if Venus-Pluto people go through a life-long process of bringing to their conscious awareness more and more of their self-worth in the world, this can increase their distorted self-image which usually stems from toxic relationships from their childhood or inter-relational trauma (usually of a sexual kind) experienced in the process of growing up. The Devil then becomes Venus again, as strife and anger is symbolically converted into peace and harmony in their personal relationships. So in a way you could see this symbolic process of the Venus-Pluto person as a reclaiming of the original meaning of the number 6’s energy. I think the number 6 can also be reshaped and rescued into our collective awareness, since it carries Venusian energy and Pluto can purge its bad reputation throughout time and helps us collectively reappreciate the number 6. The 6 can be transformed, or rather returned back to its original, pre-Christian meaning, from the number of the Devil to the number of Venus and Love.
Numerology is useful and wonderful, because it does exactly this, it rescues the numbers 6, 66 and 666 from a dogmatic meaning to one purely focused on the vibration of the symbol. By stripping away the religiously uptight and judgmental understanding of Venus – seen as something ‘amoral’ because of her association with pleasure and prosperity – and by celebrating her as the Goddess of Love, Beauty and Pleasure once more, we could collectively learn to heal one aspect of the Divine Feminine and perhaps begin to value soft power again, to prize intuition together with courage, and strength together with vulnerability. That is my hope.
With universal love,